Posted by mair on May 25, 2003, at 22:01:44
In reply to 5/21/03 or how my life slipped over the guardrail , posted by leeran on May 22, 2003, at 1:33:24
Lee - I know all of this hurts unbelievably, but it strikes me that you have given your son a wonderful gift. He would not make this move unless he felt secure enough in your love of him. He feels he can do this because he thinks you can handle this decision of his and he thinks you can handle this because you have obviously not been doing anything to undermine his relationship with his father.
I think that wherever possible kids need the mature love of both of their parents. If your ex-husband is now going out of the way to make amends for past sins, all the more power to him because in the long run, this will only benefit your son.
I think no matter how much this hurts, unless this move would be somehow injurious to your son, you need to support him in his decision, while still letting him know that you will always be there for him if he decides he wants to move back.
I know none of this is very comforting but in the long run both you and your son will be better off for whatever has been done to make him feel that he's not hurting one parent by choosing to be with another.
Mair
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