Posted by TexasChic on August 11, 2004, at 16:06:54
In reply to Re: I've got to figure out how to stop too! » TexasChic, posted by octopusprime on August 11, 2004, at 0:51:17
> when i quit smoking daily, i didn't bother solving my problems first. in fact, quitting smoking weed made some of my problems worse. my social network thought i was "weird" for not smoking up. some of my friends couldn't relate to me when i was sober. and i lost friends. and made things worse. it was hard. hard. hard.
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> but then again: when i quit it was on the advice of my doctor. that my psych meds would never get a fair trial if i didn't try quitting. and i was more scared about being depressed for the rest of my life, about feeling awful forever, that quitting weed and causing problems was worth it to avoid that pain.
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> it took me forever to work on solving the problems that "caused" me to smoke. in a way i haven't solved them, i wouldn't be returning to med therapy if i had. but i did wind up meeting a man who had just quit smoking dope, had a relationship with him (learning how to behave sober almost the whole time), left a relationship with him, and spent some time on my own filling my days without drugs. hard. hard. hard. but worth it! so worth it. i can't recognize the person i left behind two years ago when i quit. i feel so much stronger in so many ways.
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> but i think "solving your problems" first is a red herring ... we can never solve all our problems. if you don't have a compelling reason to quit, don't. but i did it for my mental health, and for that i was grateful, so if that's at all inspirational to you, take hold of that. if it's not, leave it, and do what makes you happy.
>Touché.
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