Posted by ClearSkies on January 7, 2008, at 20:02:43
In reply to Re: I give her a lot of credit » ClearSkies, posted by muffled on January 7, 2008, at 17:29:56
She's kind of chosen a path for herself. She's going to go to Narcotics Anonymous meetings, and she's detoxing herself using some medication (not suboxone but something molecularly similar?) that she's getting via her MOM (gahhhh!!!). No counseling. No professional help. Her dad offered to pay for half of a detox program, but she's made her choice.
I think he's wary just because of my personal experience with the AA model - spectacular failures in multiple cities and states! But they triggered me for some pretty particular reasons, having to do with my own family's history. I know that the path that I'm taking to recovery is different from the path that someone else will be taking, and so I said to him, by way of reassurance: maybe this is what she needs right now.
The weak part of the plan is really her relationship with her ex- and now on-again BF, who she moved back in with, and who is going to go to the NA meetings with her. Past history has shown her rebelling against his controlling nature, and then she'd spin into another downward slide. All it would take would be one little argument and the same thing would happen again - except the stakes are so much higher now. Counseling for herself would have been a good thing, but I don't think she's ready to do that self work yet, if she'll ever be ready. So for now she'll take shelter with the BF, and maybe by doing the Steps in NA she'll be able to achieve her emotional recovery alongside her physical work.
Thank goodness I see my T tomorrow. She's good at helping me help myself.
CS
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