Posted by ClearSkies on January 16, 2008, at 17:01:39
In reply to Re: I give her a lot of credit » ClearSkies, posted by Kath on January 8, 2008, at 20:50:03
Left her BF again, left a new temp job, has gone back to her old druggie friends in the old neighbourhood. No wonder she hadn't been returning our calls this past week.
I could hear the hurt and disappointment in her dad's voice when he told me. He seems to think that if she'd gone in to the program like he'd wanted, and had counseling, that maybe this hadn't had happened, but - who knows? Maybe she wasn't really ready. She certainly didn't speak in terms of whether she'd been making good or poor choices, more like she'd gotten into trouble with the drugs because she'd been getting them for free. (Like if she'd had to pay for them, she would have been OK?)
At least I feel that I did not invest of myself emotionally in this particular ride that she took. Going to the AA meeting with her was rough enough for me; it really triggered some very unhappy memories that churned up all sorts of thoughts of being taken for a ride while I'd been giving rides to others (if you follow). Being taken advantage of. I don't feel that my step daughter took advantage of us in this situation. I think that at the time, she wanted to get clean. But I don't think she really wanted to take a look at why she'd been making those unwise choices in the first place - that's what counseling helps you to do.
Maybe next time.... I just hope that there is a next time.
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