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Posted by skimble on June 29, 1999, at 14:07:25
We dated for two months when he asked me to marry him. We planned on moving in together as his lease was soon to be up. Together we searched for three weekends for a place to live. After finding the perfect place, we signed a lease and made preparations. Two days before, he tells me he doesn't want us to live together.
What is wrong with this man?
Posted by glenn on June 29, 1999, at 15:23:52
In reply to men, posted by skimble on June 29, 1999, at 14:07:25
> We dated for two months when he asked me to marry him. We planned on moving in together as his lease was soon to be up. Together we searched for three weekends for a place to live. After finding the perfect place, we signed a lease and made preparations. Two days before, he tells me he doesn't want us to live together.
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> What is wrong with this man?
hes either suffering from a fear of true commitment or he likes the chase and when he has his prey hes no longer interested, if you are still interested then you might do well to back off a bit yourself though im sure that will be difficult as you obviously think a lot to want to move in with him
there are a couple of good books such as the dance away lover by daniel goldstein or why men are the way they are by warren farrel
at least they show that its not your doing which it doesnt sound like it is
all the best
glenn
Posted by Julia on July 16, 1999, at 5:16:25
In reply to Re: men, posted by glenn on June 29, 1999, at 15:23:52
> > We dated for two months when he asked me to marry him. We planned on moving in together as his lease was soon to be up. Together we searched for three weekends for a place to live. After finding the perfect place, we signed a lease and made preparations. Two days before, he tells me he doesn't want us to live together.
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> > What is wrong with this man?I'm so glad someone else started a thread like this...not that I want to revel in male-bashing (some of my best friends are......).
I'm getting bi-polar treatment after years of resisting it. But, after my husband and I fell into a speed-abuse thing for about a year straight (and on & off for a couple years before)I FINALLY said enough is enough, went back to the dr. cleaned up my act and am trying, real hard, to keep it all together (fighting depression , mania and insomnia etc). Meanwhile, my spousal unit will conceed only that the speed thing had gotten "a little out of hand" (yeah, right) and that all our other "problems" (i.e. alot of aggression, anger flare-ups, general mean-ness, as far as I can tell, etc) are due to MY, now given a name and prescription, mental illness. Or as he says, its all because I'M crazy.
Lack of compassion is an understatement.
Why is it so hard for some men to just admit to being occasionally wrong or at fault? Rather, apparently in an attempt to "save face" they will let the evilness continue, even at the expense of their beloved family?
Posted by shannon99 on July 25, 2000, at 13:29:02
In reply to men, posted by skimble on June 29, 1999, at 14:07:25
< > We dated for two months when he asked me to marry him. We planned on moving in together as his lease was soon to be up. Together we searched for three weekends for a place to live. After finding the perfect place, we signed a lease and made preparations. Two days before, he tells me he doesn't want us to live together.
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> What is wrong with this man? >A verrry similar thing just happened to me, also! How did your situation turn out? Did you end up staying together, or did you part permanently???
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