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Posted by NikkiT on January 25, 2000, at 8:44:44
I've been suffering from depression for a couple fo years, and had periods on, and off medication. 6 months ago, during a low period, I was prescribed Seroxat (brand name for Peroxeline). 6 months later, and I feel alot worse than I ever have done. I am tired, low, and simply want to hide all the time etc.
I would like to know if any of this could be side affects of the medication, as some people have warned me it can have very bad side affects.
Also, I really need some advice on how to get my husband to understand my depression. We have only been married 2 months, and should eb the happiest we will ever be. But he simply can't understand why, and how I am feeling as I do. It is causing problems between us, which aren't helping my situation.
Hope someone can help
Nikki
Posted by Noa on January 25, 2000, at 9:39:18
In reply to Peroxeline - anyone know anything about this, posted by NikkiT on January 25, 2000, at 8:44:44
Nikki, doing a search on PubMed for "seroxat" brings up citations for studies involving paroxetine, which is the generic name for Paxil. I would guess that Seroxat is the brand name in Europe? Canada?
What dose of seroxat are you on? Are you taking it regularly? Have you told your doctor how you feel? It might not be the med for you.
It must be so hard to be in such a major life transition while depressed. I think, tho, that expecting yourself to be very happy might be making you feel worse.
Hang in there. A lot of us have been on the quest for the right med combo and it can take a while to get it right. If paroxetine isn't it, there is probably something else, or a combo that will work.
Posted by CarolAnn on January 25, 2000, at 10:00:22
In reply to Peroxeline - anyone know anything about this, posted by NikkiT on January 25, 2000, at 8:44:44
Dear NikkiT, I had the same problem in the beginning of my marriage. Finally, I came up with a way of explaining my depression that my husband could understand. It may not be medically acurate, but it serves the purpose of explanation...Communication is the secret to any good marriage, and is doubly important where mental health is concerned...
Find a time when things are calm, no one has to go anywhere, ect., ask your husband if he would sit down with you and really listen as you try to explain about depression.
I put it something like this:
"okay, honey. First, don't ever take my moods personally, my depression is in absolutely NO WAY caused by you, it is something that happens to me no matter how good my life is. Depression is an illness, just like Diabetes is an illness, and there are treatments for Depression just like there are treatments for Diabetes, unfortuneatly with Depression it is much more difficult to find a treatment that will work, because every case is different. No one chooses to be depressed and no depressed person has any control over their depression."
I explained to my husband that no matter how much pain my depression was causing me, it could never stop me from loving him. I encourage my husband to ask me anything so that I will know what he "needs" to know in order to understand how to be supportive with my depression. We have been married over five years now, and though I still struggle with horrible, can't get out of bed sometimes, depression, my husband doesn't blame "me". He understands that there are limits to my abilities because I have this "illness".
Hope this helps. Keep us posted. CarolAnn
Posted by dj on January 25, 2000, at 13:52:32
In reply to Re: explaining to husbands, posted by CarolAnn on January 25, 2000, at 10:00:22
Here are some links that may be helpful to you in explaining depression to your husband:
http://www.wingofmadness.com/whatis.htm
http://www.undoingdepression.com/excerpts.htmlThough CarolAnn is correct that no one has control over depression, we can influence it with the choices we make, which both of these sites are very good at discussing. And both have some references specifically for those who are not depressed. Also if your husband is a reader, get him a copy of William Styron's "Darkness Visible" and/or Tracey Thompson's "The Beast".
Posted by Phil on January 25, 2000, at 16:18:08
In reply to Peroxeline - anyone know anything about this, posted by NikkiT on January 25, 2000, at 8:44:44
Nikki, Paxil worked for me for a few years but the doc was augmenting with Ritalin. Well, I say it worked, it got me thru the workday but I was very lethargic at night. Paxil is one of the more sedating SSRI's. What other meds have you been on?
I really hope your husband comes around to understand your situation. I really wonder if the stigma of depression is ever really going to be understood.
Let us know what's going on, okay?
Posted by NikkiT on January 26, 2000, at 1:28:56
In reply to Peroxeline - anyone know anything about this, posted by NikkiT on January 25, 2000, at 8:44:44
Thanks..
I feel alot better today, after being able to finally realise that I'm not going mad, and that there are people who understand out there!! This is a wonderful site.
Unfortunately, any psychiatric illness has a huge stigma attached to it still, and I think Britain is probably worse than the US, as my Doctor doesn't seem worried about how I actually feel.. Just hands me the meds!!
Thanks again..
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