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Posted by saw on September 22, 2004, at 6:37:44
I feel gross. My body is hideous and I hate my weight gain. My eating is healthy and balanced but the weight is piling on. And it's the roly poly kind of fat. Ugh, I look so gross. Ugh, I need my medication.
I have lost my voice, my glands are swollen, I have sores in my nose and my neck aches. I feel bloated and hungry. My hair is dry and frizzy and my face looks pasty. The skin around my nostrils is flaking because of the sores. My ears light up like beacons every afternoon and look quite stupid in all their redness. (That little "pleasantry" has been there all my life). My stomach is so swollen, my jeans are cutting into me. I can't bend down without that enormous slab of fatty flesh getting in the way. I have dark lines under my eyes and feel tired tired tired.
I just want to crawl under a rock and hide.
If one more person tells me "smile, life's not so bad", I think I'll spit on them!
Thanks for letting me feel sorry for myself, thanks for letting me whinge.
Sabrina
Posted by Cass on September 22, 2004, at 7:49:27
In reply to Whinging, posted by saw on September 22, 2004, at 6:37:44
Hi Sabrina,
Do you have any idea what's causing this weight gain? Have you seen a doctor?
Posted by saw on September 22, 2004, at 7:55:42
In reply to Re: Whinging, posted by Cass on September 22, 2004, at 7:49:27
Hi Cass
I stopped smoking 6 months ago but was so terrified of putting on weight that I was very disciplined. I got married in May and started medication - Effexor in August. I just seem to get bigger and bigger. It really is a problem for me. I am stripped of all my self confidence and hide behind frumpy clothes. My new husband isn't allowed to put the light on and we have NEVER had that sort of problem. I have even started making excuses because I am so ashamed of my body. I have had a bad binge day / week here and there but not so bad that it could contribute. I think it is the Effexor. I need this med so badly and will be seeing pdoc next month.
I didn't mean to go off when you asked a simple question, but I guess that's what this place is for.
Sabrina
Posted by Cass on September 22, 2004, at 12:47:56
In reply to Re: Whinging, posted by saw on September 22, 2004, at 7:55:42
I really feel for you, Sabrina, but your husband desires you at your present weight, and that's great. You mentioned that you eat well. Do you also exercise? I just joined a gym because I figured I'd be more motivated to exercise if I was around other people. So far so good.
Posted by saw on September 23, 2004, at 2:18:46
In reply to Re: Whinging, posted by Cass on September 22, 2004, at 12:47:56
Hi Cass
I am going to be starting kickboxing and I use a health walker, rower and shape ball. I am not as fit or toned as I should be or would like to be though.
I need to lighten up. Especially in front of my husband. I can see that it hurts him when I run myself down. After all, if he says I look nice and I say no, I'm fat, I'm actually insulting him. It's my own fault if he stops giving me compliments. I know he often doesn't want to for being afraid of my response.
I am just going to soldier on and try the best I can to lose more weight. My goal is to look the best that I can for him. I will work towards that.
Thanks for your kind supportive words.
Sabrina
Posted by Racer on September 25, 2004, at 13:17:41
In reply to Re: Whinging, posted by saw on September 23, 2004, at 2:18:46
Don't forget to talk to your doctor! All these drugs can cause weight gain, in some cases very significant weight gain. If your doctor tries out one of those, "Oh, the drugs don't cause weight gain -- it's just like with birth control pills, when you take them, you just eat more and don't exercise as much." Well, if you hear that, give him/her one of those scornful looks to indicate that this is someone more ignorant than any guest on Jerry Springer, and say, "Do you actually stay current on the research being done in this area?"
Then find a doctor who can afford to buy a clue.
Otherwise, having some sort of support to help you lose some weight and tone yourself up in a healthy way would be great. Talk to your primary care doctor about finding a reputable group in your area. While it is possible to do something about it on your own, having the assistance and support of the group would likely help you a lot. Weight Watchers is actually known as the best of the easy to find groups out there, and it's the one that has the most support from the medical community and it's the cheapest. Otherwise, talk to your PCP about a nutritionist/dietician, and about a good exercise program designed for you by someone who's not making $10 an hour working at a gym. Someone who has some specialized training, is what i mean to say. (Some gyms do hire only those who really are qualified, but others hire anyone who'll work part time for low pay. If you join a gym, make sure you check into their hiring practices for "trainers" before you commit.)
Hope this helps.
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