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Posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
I am new to the site so I am just going to bite the bullet and spill my guts...over the past year I have experienced a ton of change, I lost my father, got married, left my career, family, and friends to move to a new country to be with my husband. Since my move 3 months ago I have been struggling with depression and anxiety. I have started therapy but I am finding it hard to adjust. Has anyone gone through anything similar that can share their experiences with me? Also, I have been looking for books on the topic but have found none...any suggetions?
Posted by shadows721 on April 29, 2004, at 18:29:31
In reply to life changes and depression, posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
Yes, I can totally relate to this. I don't have the exact situations, but very similiar scenerios. These are all major life changes and they just keep adding up on each other. It's like you are hit with just too many stressors and the body and mind are deeply affected.
We live in time that want's for us to "just to get over it." There's no such thing really. Our ancestors understood this well. Just about 100 y/o, people respected grief and may have grieved for the rest of their lives and were respected for it.
With each change either positive or negative, the mind goes through a grieving process. So, it is totally understandable for you to feel as you do right now. There is nothing wrong with this. Respect how you feel and honor it. You've been hit with a tidal wave and you are feeling the aftermath. You mind and body maybe trying to say slow down. Respect whatever your body is telling you. Greiving can't not be rushed and it can't not be stuffed well either. That just leads to an expression of physical illness.
I am glad you took the risk to share. You aren't alone in your struggles.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on April 29, 2004, at 19:16:48
In reply to life changes and depression, posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
I have done all the above minus my move was within the country but still THAT'S what triggered all my anxiety and lack of sleep then toss in PTSD and wham I am/was a mess...too much change and no time to adjust cause another change came...I have been seeing a T for maybe 2 years and it has helped a lot..LOTS....Give your T time....it may be adjusment disorder...I am glad you posted on here..welcome...and I am not on daily but will reply when I am
HUGS
> I am new to the site so I am just going to bite the bullet and spill my guts...over the past year I have experienced a ton of change, I lost my father, got married, left my career, family, and friends to move to a new country to be with my husband. Since my move 3 months ago I have been struggling with depression and anxiety. I have started therapy but I am finding it hard to adjust. Has anyone gone through anything similar that can share their experiences with me? Also, I have been looking for books on the topic but have found none...any suggetions?
Posted by Aphrodite on April 30, 2004, at 6:45:18
In reply to life changes and depression, posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
You must be overwhelmed. Anyone would be in your situation. Even therapy is a major life change. It's another new thing to deal with, worry about, and analyze. I wonder if you and your therapist can find a way to deal with these things in manageable chunks because as a whole, it's just too much. For instance, just talk about one of your friends that you miss and how to handle it. The next visit, talk about one other issue. I realize it's much more complex than that, but it's hard to make much headway if you say, "I miss the whole country." I hope your therapist is giving you tons of needed support.
Posted by rainyday on April 30, 2004, at 10:59:14
In reply to life changes and depression, posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
Welcome, Beatrix. I have gone through something similar, but I was lucky (??) enough to have the changes spaced out a little.
It is so much to deal with at once. Be very easy on yourself; anyone would be struggling to recover from just one of those changes. Give yourself plenty of time. One thing that helped me get used to the new life was to take a very local, part time job that kept my mind and body busy but allowed me to adjust to the new surroundings.
Allow yourself all the time you need. When my dad died, all I could think about was all that had happened to me in the short time span since his death: moving to another country, leaving behind family and friends, leaving behind a career. I kept wondering what he would have made of all of it and what advice he might have offered. In time I found comfort in thinking that he DID know what was happening, and I have felt his smile upon me many times since.
See you in Babbleland!
rainyday> I am new to the site so I am just going to bite the bullet and spill my guts...over the past year I have experienced a ton of change, I lost my father, got married, left my career, family, and friends to move to a new country to be with my husband. Since my move 3 months ago I have been struggling with depression and anxiety. I have started therapy but I am finding it hard to adjust. Has anyone gone through anything similar that can share their experiences with me? Also, I have been looking for books on the topic but have found none...any suggetions?
Posted by Raindancer on May 1, 2004, at 20:35:35
In reply to life changes and depression, posted by beatrix34 on April 29, 2004, at 17:59:57
Welcome Beatrix.I'm really glad you're here. You have had so much loss to cope with and with time therapy will help you through, but the important thing for the moment is to take care of yourself and give yourself time, space (and permission!) to grieve. My Dad and Uncle died last year and I haven't even begun to deal with it, and you have so much more to bear. I'm sorry things are so difficult for you just now but they will get better. In the meantime take each day at a time and post often. You will be in my thoughts.
Raindancer
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