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Posted by rjlockhart37 on July 27, 2016, at 23:28:57
my previous screen names, if you want to see my previous posts, i started posting in 03, but didnt started to get envolved and become a well known member until 2005
2003: superRithie
2003: 1980monroe
summer of 2004: badmood
2004-2005: mmcconathy [high school]
2005: rjlockhart98
05-06: rjlockhart
07: your#1fan
everything past that....
was rjlockhart04-08 2009-2012i change and hope to continue to change
Posted by rjlockhart37 on July 30, 2016, at 0:41:18
In reply to my previous screen names, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 27, 2016, at 23:28:57
i apologize for plugging up the boards with my posts, i need to just all put into one post instead of scattering out onto the boards
but i've made a choice, that i will begin to change myself, my own saying "everyday you can become someone new" i belive in very much, the reason is because i'm not happy with the person i am, and both want to change and show people the way's to do it......everyone used to tell me just by yourself and they never knew the heartache that was, so the chance to become a new person....not a serperate idenity, but change the current self.....
listen to music, and think of events in your imagination of how you want to people to see you, use the mirroring technique where you see a image, or a short clip of something and try to integrate it into your own personality......music can give you emotion to change, the feeling of the moment where you have the inspiration to change
my own desire for someone to talk to understand be there for me.....it never happened, so you look inside and use the imagination to heal abandoned feelings, using it like as projection of youself.....have the feel of emotion to become what you want
starting this i hope to change, and help other people change at the same time
Posted by baseball55 on July 30, 2016, at 18:35:44
In reply to Re: new person, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 30, 2016, at 0:41:18
I wish you the best. It is hard, though, to change without some kind of outside feedback. Most of us lack the self-awareness to really see how and why others see us and we see others, and to really understand what changes need to be made. Many find such help in religious groups, 12-step groups, therapy groups or individual therapy.
> i apologize for plugging up the boards with my posts, i need to just all put into one post instead of scattering out onto the boards
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> but i've made a choice, that i will begin to change myself, my own saying "everyday you can become someone new" i belive in very much, the reason is because i'm not happy with the person i am, and both want to change and show people the way's to do it......everyone used to tell me just by yourself and they never knew the heartache that was, so the chance to become a new person....not a serperate idenity, but change the current self.....
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> listen to music, and think of events in your imagination of how you want to people to see you, use the mirroring technique where you see a image, or a short clip of something and try to integrate it into your own personality......music can give you emotion to change, the feeling of the moment where you have the inspiration to change
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> my own desire for someone to talk to understand be there for me.....it never happened, so you look inside and use the imagination to heal abandoned feelings, using it like as projection of youself.....have the feel of emotion to become what you want
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> starting this i hope to change, and help other people change at the same time
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Posted by alexandra_k on August 7, 2016, at 0:33:43
In reply to Re: new person, posted by rjlockhart37 on July 30, 2016, at 0:41:18
I think of continuity as being like a rope or a strand of wool. There are lots of fibres of different lengths all wound up amongst each other. There isn't any one fibre that is present from the start and still present at the end but there are more overlapping fibres if you look at segments that are closer together and less if you look at segments that are further apart.
Sometimes it is easy to focus on a particular fibre and to not like it very much. It will pass / change, eventually. But then some other ones we might not like might arise... But there is continuity, too. Which is just as well. Because sometimes we don't see the good bits. The bits that we value, the bits that are valuable to others.
I don't know that I'm explaining this very well.
I know how it feels to really hate myself... It feels like hating every fibre of my being... But then if I stand back from that and see what it is about me that is doing the hating... That part of me is usually focused on things I value very much (e.g., my desire to be a good person to myself and others).
I think you are a pretty decent guy in a lot of ways RJ. I really hope you see some of those sometimes, too.
:)
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