Posted by AuntieMel on March 15, 2005, at 13:53:34
In reply to My Daughter Totally Lives for the Moment (rant), posted by mair on March 14, 2005, at 12:58:24
As in (smiling with knowledge) 'and your point is?"
You are describing a 17 year old. Sure there are some who are more organized, but this is pretty common, too.
Mine would do all the same things. If she needed to shop for something and we agreed on Saturday she would sleep half the day, get on the phone and suddenly remember the shopping trip around 8pm.
It took forever to convince her that I didn't have to be at her beck and call. Arranging my schedule around her stuff? No problem. But don't ask me to drop what I'm doing and take you to the mall.
And her room? When we moved in the house she looked at her room and said 'ok, bed over there, dresser herre, couch over there and we can put the dance floor in the middle' because her room was so big. But within a few months the floor was covered, not to be seen for a few years.
The only thing that helped me was saying something like 'I have a few hours available on Thursday between X and Y if you need to go shopping. Otherwise you'll have to make do with what you have.'
And packing can be done in 10 or 15 minutes if it's all the time you have (I've done it in 5). It would help if she would put the things she wants to take in a separate pile, though.
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