Posted by stresser on March 22, 2005, at 18:35:32
In reply to How do I deal with this?, posted by mair on March 21, 2005, at 12:56:24
Mair,
How I remember hiding bottles of Southern Comfort under the car seat when I was 17/18 years old. I'm sure she's not ready for AA, just being like most teanagers, unfortunately. If it were my daughter, I would certainly ask her about it, because you don't want her drinking and driving. I don't expect my kids to not want to try those things, because I did, and it was a lot of fun. What I do expect, and they know it, and hear it (just tonight, in fact) is that there will be no driving after drinking. So far my daughter doesn't drink, and is very verbal about how she feels when her friends do so. When they decide they are going to drink, she does something else, or stays home. I don't think my son will feel the same way. Sigh! That's a post later on down the road.
Your daughter is in the majority when it comes to drinking, so I don't think you should panic. Turning a blind eye may not be the solution or the wisest thing either. I can emagine how upset you, are especailly because she's not at home. This will give you some time to think, and maybe talk to your husband. (even though you don't want to do that)
My daughters psychologist told me once, that if "we don't pull the rug out from under our daughter's feet, the world will do it for us".
I have found that this is so true, and since then we have taken the car away several times. That seems to get her the most!
The saga continues... -L
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