Posted by greenhornet on April 8, 2005, at 20:49:13
In reply to Re: How do I deal with this? » mair, posted by stresser on March 23, 2005, at 17:16:23
> I don't know how long my daughter's attitunde will last, so don't hold you breath too long...wherever you are. I do think there is something to the way the Europeans look at drinking, because fewer people over there abuse it. I wish it were that way here.....drinking age should be 18, and driving should be 21 for a couple of years. I wonder how that would work????? You just never know what's lies in the future for you.-L
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A couple of suggestions from a mother who raised six:
1. Clothes left on the floor get taken away.
2. No driving until we, the parents, decided the particular son was responsible -- and could pay for his own insurance. (They all got their drivers licsense at a different age -- from 18 to 22.)
Just because the State allows driving at a certain age does not mean the parents must.
3.Where are these clothes that they throw around coming from? You -- then stop it. Their own money? Cut it off.
4. Too many "actives?" Our sons were limited to two "non academics" per school year. (Different sports of course, since they are ususlly seasonal.
5. Two no's -- "NO you cannot _____" and KNOW where your son or daughter is at all times and with whom. (No traveling with peers the parents don't know face to face.
6 Church of your choice TOGETHER every week.
It seems to have worked. They all grew up undamaged, educated and sober. They also tell us how grateful they are for the way we raised them.
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