Posted by Sigismund on April 17, 2008, at 15:31:04
In reply to Re: maybe one of the reasons I have low self-estee » Sigismund, posted by llurpsienoodle on April 17, 2008, at 9:49:36
>but somehow I have taken on others' pretensions about what I should be like. Why?
Our identities are fluid. We had all this neccessary nonsense about which fruit we liked (every boy gets to have a fruit of his own). Later we realised it was crap. I dunno if we're plastic but we need to fit in
Part of the charm of babies and little children is the calm impassive look they have as they absorb the world. They are learning machines and we are their laboratory. Anyway, I think that siblings and family constellation patterns have more effect on kids than the direct relations with the parents. Identity is a bit of a struggle.
My brother was sufficiently unbuttoned to actually say he knew everything...history of Vietnam, distances to all the stars, when he didn't know he pretended he did, what a pain.
The more interesting question is why one would want to fit in with such a jerk. I guess we have to make do with what comes along. Or we love everything until it becomes impossible.
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