Posted by Crazy_Charlie on November 4, 2004, at 6:58:26
In reply to My son died suddenly on August 26, 2004, posted by RoseyReel on October 14, 2004, at 13:03:44
When you loose your child, the grief is beyond everything that can be labeled selfish. It is too big to have such a label on it...
When you give birth to your child, you have this expectation in your head that you will go first. This is not something one talk about, but the normal working of the nature is that the old die an dthe young live to get old. Usually parents die before their kids, that is how a normal situation would be. This is what we expect in our hearts and in our minds.
No one should blame you if you can't accept that your son is gone. And you shouldn't feel selfish for wanting him to survive even if that meant a constraint living situation. You are only a human, you are only a parent that lost your baby. I wish you peace and happiness in times to floow. Allow yourself to grieve, it's the body's way of coping with the unbelievable.
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