Posted by Jen Star on July 9, 2005, at 13:15:53
In reply to Re: How will I cope when Hammy dies?, posted by Deneb on June 27, 2005, at 22:40:11
hi Deneb,
I wish I had real advice that worked, but I don't! If you're a worrier, I think maybe you're just ALWAYS going to do some level of worrying. I think that's the way I am. No matter what drugs I take, no matter how much yoga and meditation I try, I will STILL worry to some degree, even if I minimize it.I guess I have to accept it and enjoy life as much as I can in the cracks and crevices around the worry! Maybe that's the only advice I have...
TRY therapy, TRY medication...try relaxation, medidation, etc. But maybe also we all just have to accept that our minds are wired a certain way and just enjoy the moments of happinesss and pleasure that come our way. For me, some of my happy moments are tinged with worry and concern, but they're still happy, and I still value them.
Maybe worrying helps us love and value people & pets more. If we didn't worry, we wouldn't love them so much?
I don't know how it all works...I don't have answers...but my advice is to love Hammy fiercely even if you're afraid of losing him. Don't give into the fear. Enjoy him even if he'll be gone someday. Enjoy him while you're worrying, and because you're worrying.
JenStar
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