Posted by Mal on July 20, 2005, at 15:04:31
In reply to Re: How will I cope when Hammy dies? » Deneb, posted by Jen Star on July 9, 2005, at 13:15:53
> I guess I have to accept it and enjoy life as much as I can in the cracks and crevices around the worry! Maybe that's the only advice I have...
> TRY therapy, TRY medication...try relaxation, medidation, etc. But maybe also we all just have to accept that our minds are wired a certain way and just enjoy the moments of happinesss and pleasure that come our way. >
> I don't know how it all works...I don't have answers...but my advice is to love Hammy fiercely even if you're afraid of losing him. Don't give into the fear. Enjoy him even if he'll be gone someday. Enjoy him while you're worrying, and because you're worrying.
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> JenStarJenstar, so much of this post (and previous ones) sounds like me. I used to really worry about losing my parents when I was a child, especially when I was left with babysitters for even just a little while. Now that I am grown, I worry about losing them less than I used to, but I also have more to worry about losing- a husband and babygirl... I try really hard to just love them up as much as I can daily, but it is also hard to let go...
My Mom is a CHAMPION worrier, and I worry too, but I try to fight my tendencies and enjoy myself.
Have a great evening. Mal
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