Posted by Dissociative Jane on June 16, 2003, at 9:07:40
In reply to Termination, posted by fallsfall on June 15, 2003, at 20:12:03
> I've been seeing my therapist for 8 1/2 years now. In the last couple of months we have been having a conflict - I would think she was mad at me (I still think this...) and that would make my self-esteem dive. I was spending so much time worrying about my self-esteem that I couldn't work on anything else. We had been talking about my finding another therapist in September, but I couldn't wait that long. This is really amazing because I am VERY dependent. So I told her that I was going to move on and she agreed that it was a good idea.
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> My question for all of you is: What do we need to do to terminate cleanly?
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> Last week we talked about what I need to look for in a new therapist. Next time we will talk about what was good in our therapy and what was bad (so I can bring the good things with me and leave the bad ones behind). Also things she thought I really should do but didn't.
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> I want to ask her if she will ever forgive me for the bad thing I did that started this all off. But if she says no, then I'll be crushed. If she says that she forgave me a long time ago I won't believe her. I guess I would only believe her if she said that she was working on it. The other option is to never bring it up, but then I'll never know. I can't decide what will be worst.
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> What other topics are helpful to cover?
I am wondering....what kind of conflict were you having with your therapist to cause you to feel like she is angry with you?
I totally think you should ask her if she is angry with you, but why would she be?
If there is this much discomfort, maybe you really do need to find another therapist.
Personally, I can't imagine going to the same therapist for 8 1/2 years. Have you improved? Do you think she is doing her job with your treatment?
I have been seeing a therapist for 1 year but i have this thought in the back of my mind that that I will get better and not have the need to continue. I have never missed an appt and I'm very driven to feel free and mentally healthy, especially now that I know what is wrong with me.
poster:Dissociative Jane
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