Posted by Dissociative Jane on June 16, 2003, at 10:15:12
In reply to Re: Termination...?'s » Dissociative Jane, posted by fallsfall on June 16, 2003, at 9:35:45
> Hi.
>
> You can read about my transgression at http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20030407/msgs/221129.html. (Note the subject of that thread: Forever Therapy. I wish that it was).
>
> We made a lot of progress in the first 7 years. We both agree that we had a really good relationship.
>
> We did talk about how I thought she was angry, and her effect on my self esteem. The last time we talked about her anger, she insisted that she wasn't judging me. The problem was that I was judging me - based on what I thought she was thinking.
>
> I do feel better knowing that I am leaving - that helps me know that I'm doing the right thing.
>
> I am interviewing other therapists this week. I even cancelled my appointment with her (Unheard of!).
>
> She has been so important to me that I want to do the termination thing right - to minimize the damage. I just need to know what that is!THANK YOU so much for sharing your post from April with me. I want to tell you that I also invaded my therapists privacy by looking her up on the internet. I initially did this after my first session with her to see if I could find some info regarding her therapy: ie: any written psychology articles or a professional web site. I really believe it was my lack of trust in her. There was not any professional info however, there was private info....a club she belonged to with her home phone #. I was so intrigued that I found myself searching this club often and looking for any info possible with her name on it....a situation that I felt was becoming out of control. I was full of guilt. I was realizing that my therapist is really GOOD and if I really wanted to get better, I needed to be totally upfront and honest with her.
So, one day I just told her that I had been invading her privacy and I was so terribly sorry. I would totally understand if she no longer wanted to continue being my therapist. She said she was not mad at me and I think she was glad that I was honest with her.
I just want you to know that I appreciate you sharing your story with me because I am realizing that most of us here on this posting board share many of the same thoughts/feelings regarding therapy and our therapists.
poster:Dissociative Jane
thread:234197
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20030529/msgs/234297.html