Posted by Penny on July 1, 2003, at 14:24:18
In reply to Re: therapist on vacation » Penny, posted by Dinah on July 1, 2003, at 14:03:39
I just have MAJOR issues with men - sort of a fear thing in a lot of ways - due to my relationship with my dad. My dad is very condescending, sarcastic and hurtful toward me, and I have a fear that a male therapist might be the same way. I mean, I guess I know that, as a therapist, he probably wouldn't be, but I just have that fear as I have a REALLY hard time confronting people when I disagree with them and I can barely do that with a female therapist and wouldn't be able to do it with a man at all.
At the same time, when I was looking for a female psychiatrist, I couldn't find one, so I started going to my current pdoc, and he is fantastic. It took me a little while to get used to him, but now I'm very open with him, telling him everything and feeling very comfortable, for the most part. He's kinda like the ideal dad, and is about the right age. Very intelligent, very warm and very comforting.
But...one time he took my BP in his office (he has just started his own practice and doesn't have a nurse at his Chapel Hill office) and my BP was high - he waited about 10 minutes and it was still high. He had me take it at home on my own, and it was fine. Despite having seen him for over a year, I truly believe it was the fact that HE was taking my BP that made it rise. I told him so. At first he was like, "Ah, the white coat effect" and I said, "No, the MAN effect. My BP is fine when I visit my FEMALE doctor or when the FEMALE nurse takes it..." He understood, I think.
Oh my...
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