Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 17:48:06
In reply to Re: Another question re anger toward therapists, posted by Rigby on March 7, 2004, at 17:27:43
well, right now i need to focus on my anger about the gaslighting. it's urgent that i address it because otherwise i turn the anger inward and either hurt myself, get severely depressed, or both. besides, that hasn't been my problem (focusing too much on the therapeutic relationship) -- i have the opposite problem: i tend to avoid it. and it's something that i really need to stop avoiding at this point.> I think sharing the specific insight is probably irrelevant. But it was huge for me and getting past a certain pattern of thinking was I'd say nearly life changing. And it came from a year's worth of muddling through, mostly on my own, actually, this issue with my therapist.
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> One thing that might help that I did was to just tell yourself that this week what you'll focus on is you and your life and lay off the dynamic with her. Just let it go for a week. Or two. For one, it forces you to look at what you've got sans therapy drama (can be painfully enlightening) and also it is actually kind of helpful to lay off the dynamic and let the therapy take a different rhythym for a while.
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