Posted by JenStar on July 15, 2004, at 11:36:33
In reply to Re: Wanting to quit again » tabitha, posted by Dinah on July 15, 2004, at 8:33:19
Hey guys,
I'm somewhat new to therapy but I can't believe it's beneficial to be so wrapped up in a therapist. These people are only human: They have quirks, foibles, desires for greaness, and petty sides sometimes too. I think sometimes the therapists LIKE it when people have super-glue transference b/c it makes them feel powerful, needed, controlling. The therapist of course has the desire to help others, but being human, of COURSE they are going to have other motivations as well. Keep that in mind.It sounds like the subject often grants the therapist too much power and gives them too much benefit of the doubt. These folks are not all -powerful...they just happened to study this in school and are pretty good at relating to people. They're supposed to your guide, not your artificial leg.
I think it's important to take charge of your own therapy at times. If the group meeting, sucks, don't go! Don't let these people insult you. How can that be good for you? Would you take that from a random guy in class, in a supermarket, in line at the post office? Be careful what kind of liberties you grant others who are just are troubled (if not more so) than you are.
If your therapist isn't supportive, fire her! (Be Donald Trump: "You're Fired.")
Anyway. Hope you're doing well & feeling better. I'm thinking of you with kind thoughts.
Take Care.
JenStar> You really are on quite a rollercoaster right now, Tabitha. :( I wish I could make it better for you.
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> I wish they had a consumer manual to tell us when feeling bad in therapy is good for you, and when it's just feeling bad.
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> ((((Tabitha)))))
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