Posted by karen_kay on July 21, 2004, at 13:12:46
In reply to Re: forgiveness, posted by Dinah on July 20, 2004, at 21:38:55
hmmmm, i know what i'm going to say will make no sense at all. but, i'm going to say it anyway. and, i'll read it later and think 'that makes no sense, even to me!'
i can agree with what you said. all of it. and i can say i agree with it. but, i can also say that i have a different view in my way of seeing forgiveness. or, why i strive to teach people to forgive others.
ok (and here comes the 'talking in circles' and 'making absolutely no sense' part of kk that so often comes out, so bear with me :)
i think that everyone has a right to try to teach others ot forgive, whether they were involved or not with the situation at hand. because it only takes that one word, that one person, that one idea that magically *sticks*...
(i think and again these are only the words of me, kk, unless of course someone once told me this and i'm stealing their ideas... if that's the case then speak up and i'll give you credit!)
ok, where was i? ok, it only takes that one idea, that right person, those magic words, that one point of view, phrased jsut the right way, on the perfect day, to make it stick! to make one think. so, whether the person speaking of forgiveness has had to forgive another of murder, or only forgive their dog of pooping on the floor.. it's all about their heart. and it takes that heart. that magic heart, that speaks about forgiveness on that magic day, when you are ready to hear it.
and about trusting... i have trust issues. i'll admit it. i'm working through them. but, i also have a real problem with being naive and thinking that no one ever wants to hurt me. (see, i never make sense do i?) why would anyone want to hurt me? and when people 'tell my secrets' even i laugh because rather than be angry about them betraying my trust i realize there isn't a such thing as a secret anyway. and that's usually the first person i call when i have a new secret. and, when i call my mom for support and she responds cooly 'want to talk to your sister?' she's again the first person i call the next time for support. though, i do the quick follow-up call to my sister. (but, trust me. if i have children, i wont' let her babysit, but only because she'll complain about it, and i jsut can't stand to listen to her complain.)
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