Posted by DaisyM on September 16, 2004, at 10:15:30
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today!, posted by Passerby on September 16, 2004, at 9:54:53
I didn't see anywhere in the babble that anyone wasn't allowing the therapist to be human. Mostly it was support about how horrible it feels to want or need your sessions and not get them. An honest expression of those kinds of feelings can't typically be done in most environments. OF COURSE, we know he is allowed to be sick. And, OF COURSE, in a "normal" conversation we would be so grown up and understanding..."no problem, just take care of yourself and I'll see you when you feel better." But the whole idea of posting here is to say what can't usually be said...and to get support and understanding for those feelings.
If there is one thing I've learned, feelings for your therapist are not rational and though we can maintain an outward persona of polite, grown-up understanding of the boundaries and limitations, sometimes, secretly, all we really want is what we really want, without having to be fair or balanced.
*sigh* It would be easier if rational perspective worked.
poster:DaisyM
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