Posted by Passerby on September 17, 2004, at 19:02:21
In reply to Re: Can't believe my T cancelled today! ? Passerby, posted by Dinah on September 17, 2004, at 11:08:46
> Being a newcomer, my mistake was thinking people (a) might actually say what they really mean and (b) want to use this as a real support network in enhancing what they get from therapy so they can get better. Instead, it clearly has a different purpose as you point out. How "constructive" that is for anyone at anytime, is something I am unsure of. Maybe that is what she really needs to think about.
Chuckle. Gardenergirl has never struck me as someone who has trouble with constructive thought. Perhaps you misunderstood the tone of the thread.
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> I think Daisy had it right. Here we often allow ourselves to say what's in our secret heart of hearts. The things we know are illogical. Things that if we said them at all to our therapists (amid copious expressions of sympathy for their illnesses) would be accepted by our therapists as exactly what they are, and no more. Grist for the therapy mill. An admission of the importance of our therapists.
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> Besides, in any situation, therapy or otherwise, down below all the expressed compassion and hands extended to others, there is a tiny bit of the wee child whose first thought is "Yes, but how does this affect *meeee*." Nothing wrong with that as long as we act appropriately. Which I'm sure Gardenergirl did. You can see in her thread that she continued to do all she needed to do in a completely appropriate manner.
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> But it's still ok to feel upset.
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