Posted by Passerby on September 17, 2004, at 22:05:30
In reply to Opinions and support ? Passerby, posted by daisym on September 17, 2004, at 20:56:37
No, you did not hit a nerve. While I appreciate your openness, talking about my background and how I wound up in therapy is not the point (at least it is not why I responded initially). I simply tried to offer a viewpoint that was not being discussed. What I mean is that I thought it was worthwhile to simply remind gg that her therapist is human. It seemed to me she was almost giving her therapist "superhuman qualities", thus intensifying her feelings of transference, not reducing them (which, silly me, I thought that was the point). Or put more plainly, I guess in some ways, the responders were helping her make mountains out of molehills. And, in my world (which if you want some sharing about me, is also a very highly functioning) of finance - mergers and acquisitions and investments, to be specific - is not something that is valued. The idea is to make things simpler not more complicated.
I do not undermine the value of a message board like this but I do think that for the topic of transference, the constant talking about it, public worrying about it, and perhaps even sympathizing about it may, in fact, make it worse. THAT IS THE REALITY CHECK I WAS OFFERING. It might not feel quite as supportive. But it also attempts to help people see things from a different perspective, which can be just as useful.
However, for the sake of those who appreciate what is here, I think I will keep passing by. But, I will make one last observation. Considering the number of posts I got, I actually think I might of hit a nerve or two. Perhaps some people realize that somewhat minor issues, like one or two cancellations, are being debated as if they were issues of world peace. And maybe, just maybe, that does not quite make sense to them, when viewed from a different perspective.
Garden Girl - Good luck and I hope you find peace with your therapist.
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