Posted by Susan47 on February 7, 2005, at 18:39:21
In reply to Re: A dependency on your T » Susan47, posted by mair on February 7, 2005, at 16:39:33
Emotionally dependent, on its own, means to me that my mood, my emotions, depend on how my relationship with my therapist is. And if I'm having a bad relationship with him (we're going back to the past here) then I feel bad about myself, and I don't like feeling bad about myself so then I go out to change that by trying to change the relationship. Now I'm dependent. I can't let go of that relationship; it defines me.
Emotional trust means that no matter what I perceive the relationship to be, I believe that there is enough respect and caring that I don't need to prove anything; I will be seen as who I really am, and still be cared for. Now I'm not dependent; I'm just trusting.
Hmmm. What did I just say? In any case, they go together in a framework of dependency, in a way, because if I trust and my trust is broken, suddeny I feel bad about myself, and I'm dependent.
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