Posted by Smeegle on February 7, 2005, at 23:46:50
In reply to Re: A dependency on your T » mair, posted by thewrite1 on February 7, 2005, at 22:46:01
I don't see myself ever becoming dependent on my T. We have an excellent rapport, I feel that he is genuinely concerned about my mental health and personal safety. I know his door is open any time I feel the need to call. He has stressed repeatedly that if I feel the need I should NEVER hesitate to call. I have come close, but have never called outside of normal business hours (and even then, just to move up an appt). It took me a long time to open up to him and now that I have, it would certainly be beneficial for him to remain my T. And I hope he does. I don't feel that my world would end if he moved or whatever. I know that I may have to go thru a couple of other pdocs before I find another that fits with my personality and communication style. It wouldn't be a pleasant transition, but I can't see falling apart or being that unrealistically dependent on their presence in my life. I wouldn't think it would be fair to him. I have trust and mutual respect. Oddly enough, at first I thought he was aloof, impersonal and downright cool for a long time. I see how wrong I was. I just don't see how someone else's existence in your life can be productive in moving forward. It sounds more like filling a void. Just my perspective on it. Don't take me wrong, I've never walked in your shoes and have no clue what anyone else's issues/dx are. I just know that I would be disappointed, but I would just move on and keeping at it until I find another T that I can feel comfortable with.
Smeegs
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