Posted by Dinah on February 10, 2005, at 12:38:05
In reply to Do your Ts like you?, posted by pinkeye on February 9, 2005, at 19:54:50
My therapist absolutely would not choose me as someone to hang out with. In that way, I would say he doesn't like me at all. He also not infrequently finds me annoying and hard to deal with.
But for all that, he's grown fond of me as more than a lucrative income stream, I think.
I think I'm more than happy enough with caring and fondness even, or maybe especially, in the face of the fact that I'm not the sort of person he'd choose to feel fond of. It's like the fondness and caring are made of more than mere chemistry. If the fondness and caring were borne of the fact that he found me likeable, he could quit caring when I did something unlikeable or uncharming. But they aren't. They're based on history and knowledge and working through difficulties together. On mutual commitment.
So his fondness and caring feel deep in the way a very long marriage is deep.
But that's just me.
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