Posted by pinkeye on February 15, 2005, at 16:50:02
In reply to Longing for my T, posted by thewrite1 on February 15, 2005, at 11:51:58
There is no magic switch on/off for these feelings. It was build over years of thoughts and feelings and it will take some time to resolve. All you can do now, is try to understand the motives behind why you are doing it, and try to see if it works for you now, and if it doesn't, what correct behaviour you can now learn to minimise the impact. But what she is doing is right. The whole therapy model is supposed to recreate a scenario for you and to help you go through it once more wiht a different outcome. I had trouble relating to men and my experience with my therapist has resolved a lot of the conflict for me - mostly through recreating (unintentionally it happened for me) and living through it again and being able to learn with confidence that the other party is commited to letting you learn and help you. I have to say, my relationship with my husband is much better now, because of my relationship with my therapist (ex).
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