Posted by daisym on February 15, 2005, at 23:42:05
In reply to Re: Longing for my T, posted by thewrite1 on February 15, 2005, at 22:41:37
This is such a tough thing to struggle with. We talk about it in therapy over and over again. I say, "it feels wrong" -- he says, "who is that talking?"
For me, I know that the longing is about a rescue fantasy that can't happen. The attachment feels wrong because it leaves me vulnerable to another potential hurt. But I also know that the attachment has been absolutely necessary to go as deep as we have.
I'm glad she has allowed your attachment and met your longing with such openness. Too often we hear about therapists who get nervous about these feelings and shut clients down or worse, transfer them.
I guess the next question is what to do with this longing. I'll be interested to see what she recommends for you.
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