Posted by allisonross on December 8, 2005, at 14:51:30
In reply to green lights (***various possible triggers***) » allisonross, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 11:22:27
> Hey Ally,
> Hey, Tamar!
> Don't let it get you down!I'll get over it. Takes me time.
I don't think any of the comments anyone made were intended as any kind of personal criticism of you. (Or Happyflower or me - I think of the three of us as the usual suspects for this kind of stuff; hope I haven't left out anyone who wanted to be included!)
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> I guess it's just a fact that even when people understand different points of view they don't always feel comfortable about it.I'm different, I guess (well, I've been told that ALL of my life, LOL).....if I don't understand something or agree, i don't say anything.
It's just one of the hazards of relating to other people. Fortunately the rewards outweigh the difficulties!
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> I'm trying not to think of it as criticism... I'm thinking of it as discomfort. I really don't think anyone is suggesting we're doing anything bad.Talking about ones' feelings isn't bad; just normal.
They just don’t like to read it. So, what kind of a trigger do you use? There's so many things that someone may not want to read; it could boggle ones' mind.
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> I guess the joking was a bit more emotive than we anticipated. And people have all kinds of different triggers. I know you're a sensitive person who would never hurt anyone on purpose, and I wouldn’t want to either.Thankyou, that is true.
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> You take care, and remember that if people feel a little uneasy about those joking posts it’s because they don’t want you to get hurt.But I didn't hear anything like concern, etc., it was criticism that I was somehow being disrespectful to my t---Nothing could be further from the truth. Our relationship is unbelievable. Things were read into what I said...as my t says: "We all construct our own versions of reality." This is true, LOL!
Thankyou, (((Tamar))))....hugs, Ally
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