Posted by Dinah on December 8, 2005, at 18:10:14
In reply to triggers and pain, posted by Tamar on December 8, 2005, at 17:39:47
I certainly hope we can work it out.
I would hate to see *anyone* leave too. I'm not sure I made that clear. And I hate to see *anyone* hurt.
As Tamar said, it may be impossible to make it perfect or even not painful for everyone. But I add my wish that the situation can become tolerable.
Maybe the key to that is recognition of and regret for the pain on the part of everyone who is feeling it. Maybe even for those who aren't posting about it.
It's hard to see conflict here on Babble isn't it? But my therapist would say that's part of life, and I need to learn to tolerate being angry or having others angry with me, while still keeping the overall relationship in mind. Then I'd probably would say something either very whimpery about not liking anger, or something very direct and to the point about his words depending on my mood. And then... Well, in the end we'd work it out.
So I'll duck now in case anyone has the same reaction to my words that I have towards his. And yet be fairly confident that we can work it out.
poster:Dinah
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