Posted by orchid on December 9, 2005, at 20:38:22
In reply to Gauging comfort levels » allisonross, posted by one woman cine on December 9, 2005, at 9:51:30
I have to second one woman cine on this one.
Maybe it is like most of us would like a good sexual scene in a movie, but some may not feel comfortable in an all out adult movie.
I haven't felt too bad about any of the threads so far. A few that were little offensive to my taste, but none that was outright offensive. And I did enjoy many of the threads - atleast reading them, even if I felt not able to participate in it. Plus as one woman cine said, it is the tone and the manner by which the post is made that makes it enjoyable or little offensive.
But the intention here is not to criticize or judge. It is just a different taste.
> "I understand that, but how is one to know what is/is not offensive, etc.? This is difficult to know."
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> I guess one can gauge what someone finds offensive or upsetting by carefully listening. This wasn't the first thread where posters have stated that they were uncomfortable with the topic of "sex with the therapist". I posted about a topic that was probably uncomfortable with alot of people, myself included (primarily prompted by all the previous posts about love in therapy) - but everyone who responded really was engaged in a true dialogue and stated their opinions and feelings with respect to everyone else. & we didn't all agree. If a miscommunication occurred, it was re-hashed and spoken about it. (Anyway, this is what I thought.) & I truly applaud everyone who contributed to that thread & I found it inspiring that folks could discuss things in such a constructive manner.
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> It is difficult to know what could possibly trigger someone - ( & I was going to insert a joke here) but I think the best course of action is to tread lightly and respectfully as you can. & humor is important but you have to know your audience. This is a community of sorts, but still - I don't feel I can ever "know" anyone here enough to make jokes about the very serious subject matter that we are discussing.
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> It's not a matter of discussing your therapeutic relationship, it's the manner in which you do it. If you don't feel comfortable discussing it, I totally respect that.
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> You stated earlier you didn't mind to be asked questions first. Do you still feel like answering a question?
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