Posted by one woman cine on December 10, 2005, at 20:14:53
In reply to Re: Gauging comfort levels, posted by Tamar on December 9, 2005, at 14:13:40
I'm sorry you are feling so badly about all this, on top of feeling badly about the issues going on in therapy. I don't think it's trivial and have never stated such.
I also don't see your feelings as wrong. I don't think anyone is here to judge or criticize, especially not me. I hope you are able to talk about the stuff you are grappling with.
I must say however, that I feel everyone has a right to discuss how they are feeling about a particular issue within reason. This is a very provocative and serious issue for many people, & as you have stated, yourself.
& I don't know, but I feel that anyone saying anything about this, that expresses concern or discomfort is being silenced b/c it makes the original poster uncomfortable. I know this is simplifying it, (& I sincerely hope I don't aggravate you further by trying to explain....) but when I feel I'm not able to express myself, (& this is getting into my stuff) - I feel I'm not being "nice" etc etc. In essence, my silence means I'm taking care of someone else, at the expense of how I feel.
This isn't about judging feelings as right or wrong. Because they aren't either. They just happen. But for me, if something is uncomfortable; that means I get to have my say too. I find it's just healthier for me to advocate for myself, instead of sitting with someone's elses stuff that may not belong to me. & not that anyone was trying to do that, that just happens too.
I think it's really great you suggested the trigger warning, that's such a help. I hope I've cleared the air a little. I totally don't believe in censorship for anyone.
poster:one woman cine
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