Posted by one woman cine on December 9, 2005, at 9:51:30
In reply to Re: Green Light-Tempest in a t - pot/TriggerAbuse » one woman cine, posted by allisonross on December 8, 2005, at 14:56:26
"I understand that, but how is one to know what is/is not offensive, etc.? This is difficult to know."
I guess one can gauge what someone finds offensive or upsetting by carefully listening. This wasn't the first thread where posters have stated that they were uncomfortable with the topic of "sex with the therapist". I posted about a topic that was probably uncomfortable with alot of people, myself included (primarily prompted by all the previous posts about love in therapy) - but everyone who responded really was engaged in a true dialogue and stated their opinions and feelings with respect to everyone else. & we didn't all agree. If a miscommunication occurred, it was re-hashed and spoken about it. (Anyway, this is what I thought.) & I truly applaud everyone who contributed to that thread & I found it inspiring that folks could discuss things in such a constructive manner.
It is difficult to know what could possibly trigger someone - ( & I was going to insert a joke here) but I think the best course of action is to tread lightly and respectfully as you can. & humor is important but you have to know your audience. This is a community of sorts, but still - I don't feel I can ever "know" anyone here enough to make jokes about the very serious subject matter that we are discussing.
It's not a matter of discussing your therapeutic relationship, it's the manner in which you do it. If you don't feel comfortable discussing it, I totally respect that.
You stated earlier you didn't mind to be asked questions first. Do you still feel like answering a question?
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