Posted by Deneb on December 9, 2005, at 11:28:51
In reply to Re: I'm stuck in childhood (ramblings) » Deneb, posted by Shortelise on December 9, 2005, at 2:01:53
> What would happen ifyou told your parents that you don't feel you have the skills to live independently and asked them to help you by giving you some responsibility at home?
I don't know what would happen. I don't think they would trust me to pay the bills. I don't know how to drive so I wouldn't be able to get many groceries. I do call to make appointments though, since my parents don't speak English well. I end up reading bills and things like that for them. I guess that is sort of some responsibility.
> The world is scary. But aren't you a part of it? You go to school, get to and from school, buy a bag of chips when you want one, buy shoes, go to the library, don't you? THat's the real world. I wish it were something more exciting, but it's not, not really. It's mostly trying to get from one place to another without tripping over the furniture, as a French poet once put it (Georges Perec).
I never thought of it that way. Thanks. I guess I am in the real world. I think what I really meant to say was that I'm not independent. I depend too much on others.
> Part of a parent's job is to help us learn the little skills we need to make it all easier. I hope you have parents who are willing to do that.My Mom doesn't want me to move away. She didn't want my sister to move away to go to school either. My sister is naturally independent, I'm not. I don't have the confidence.
> I didn't feel like a woman until I was 30. I was out there, lived on my own for many years, was as street wise as they come, but although I called myself a woman, I didn't really feel I was mature enough to deserve it.
I think I still might be living with my parents at 30 at this rate I'm going. I think a big problem is that I don't have a social life. All I have are my parents. I don't feel particularly social most if not all of the time.
Deneb
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