Posted by Shortelise on December 9, 2005, at 12:40:24
In reply to Re: I'm stuck in childhood (ramblings) » Shortelise, posted by Deneb on December 9, 2005, at 11:28:51
My dear, learn to drive. Get your driver's license. I know I'm saying it in a very directive way, not suggesting as I ought, but dammit, if you live in North America, you need to know how to drive.
I learned when I was 28. :-)Deneb, a social life is what you want it to be. It might be going to school, and sitting with others to eat lunch. It might be taking a walk with a neighbour. I get the feeling that you are judging yourself by someone else's standards, as though you don't know or respect your own.
Tiny goals sometimes get me through the day. Have you tried setting those? If you want easy contact with people, try saying to the woman next to you on the bus: your scarf (hat, coat, teeth, hair, whatever) is such a pretty colour. Wherever did you find it? Then ask questions. Oh,at Wallmart? Was that the only colour? Do you always were blue - it looks so good on you.
WHen in doubt, compliment. Especially women. It's a - what's the word - primitive thing. I look at you. I smile. You smile back. I tell you you have beautiful hair. You feel safe because you know I am not going to be mean. You thank me, and say you found a great new product. And we're off.
Deneb, people are so scary. They really are. You never know when someone is going to be hurtful. But there are lots of people who are gentle, and if you learn to read the signs, and can show that you are also gentle, it's easier to make contact.
Maybe one of the things I learned was not to prejudge people. I thought they were making assumptions about me, when in fact I was the one making assumptions.
This is life as ShortE sees it today. Now I have to go clean the bathroom or the things growing in there might evolve enough to take over the world.
SHortE
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