Posted by All Done on December 30, 2005, at 14:59:27
In reply to Re: I really do know nothing is magic or easy. » All Done, posted by Dinah on December 29, 2005, at 23:34:09
> It does get easier. With time and attention. I don't think that level of emotion can sustain itself forever.
I hope you're right, Dinah. I know I've gone through periods where it wasn't this bad. But it's been a while now, and this is the worst it has been.
> I think it can be helped along if you can either learn the dynamics within you that contributes to the feelings (or possibly what in your life is missing and being filled by the therapy relationship) or learn enough about the therapist that the magic is gone.
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> I've done both to some extent, and I think the former is probably more helpful. :)I know what you're saying and I'm going to try to work hard to understand what's behind all this. Maybe if my T can just give me a hint ;).
When you mention learning enough about the therapist so the magic is gone, are you talking about an idealization of the therapist? This feels kind of different from that. I feel like, in *some* ways, I've moved beyond my idealization of him. I see him as "just a human" more often than not. If learning more about him is going to get rid of this particular kind of "magic", I'm not so sure I want to because (and what I haven't expressed in my earlier posts in this thread) there is a part of me that feels good about this. You know how when there is such an intense reaction (in this case, of sadness or pain), the flip side can be pretty good and there are brief moments (very brief, at this point) where it actually feels good to be so attached. Maybe like with my son. I love him so much, it just hurts, sometimes. Am I making any sense?
Thanks, Dinah. I hope you're doing okay? Are you? How are things going?
Take care,
Laurie
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