Posted by daisym on January 5, 2006, at 15:26:21
In reply to sick mothers **Trigger**, posted by B2chica on January 5, 2006, at 11:52:59
I think you need to untangle the thread of "liked being close to mom" and "liked" whatever it was she was doing. I think it is important to keep the time and place in mind, things that were done back then feel very wrong to us now. I'm not saying they weren't, I just want you to keep it in mind.
I know this is easier said than done. I'm struggling with this myself right now. Body response feels like a betrayal, not hating them back then feels stupid and looking for closeness that included touch feels like helping initiate things.
My therapist said, "it is always the adults job to keep things together and appropriate. You weren't the adult." I felt like one though...
Hang in there. I hope today went OK.
poster:daisym
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