Posted by shrinking violet on May 24, 2006, at 19:38:03
In reply to Re: does the pain of losing a T ever go away..... » shrinking violet, posted by 10derHeart on May 18, 2006, at 22:14:10
Thanks for your kind words. :-)It's been a year since I left my T......True, the pain isn't as bad in comparison, but back then I was completely devastated and felt like I was in a million pieces already before I even lost her, so I'm not sure if that particular pain has gotten better or if it's some of the other stuff around it that has improved. I'm just tired of thinking of her every day, missing her, wondering if she ever thinks of me, wondering if I'm stupid to hold onto hope that I'll ever see her again (etcetera etcetera). Thankfully, while my current T is very good in a lot of ways, there's no attachment there whatsoever and I cannot imagine feeling anything more for her than I do now (that of respect for her and open to her trying to help me). She is very different from my former T in some ways, and while I think that can be a good thing, it doesnt make the pain any less.
And, no, I don't believe much of what you offered, at least for my situation, but I can hope you are right and be grateful for your words.
Thank you,
sv> I'm so sorry you still sound so sad, sv.
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> But I'm very glad to see your name here.
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> I think of you and wonder how you are sometimes.
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> I think it can fade gently away in time. I still miss my former T and it's been nearly 2 years, but the pain is tucked away and it's not so bad now. My current T. made a world of differnce, but of course, now I am very attached to him...<sigh> It's all hard, isn't it?
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> And my situation isn't the same, 'cause we've been in email contact and things ended well. So it's not fair for me to compare, I suppose...but I still believe when you find the right path for other things in your life, then that precious relationship can fall into a special place, one that can ache from time to time, but in a bittersweet way that's quite bearable.
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> And I don't blame you if you don't believe a word....(((((((SV))))))))
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