Posted by Daisym on March 13, 2007, at 19:21:39
In reply to Re: Looking into the Abyss, posted by annierose on March 13, 2007, at 6:51:48
Thank you for the ongoing support. I sort of let go in therapy today and just poured it out -- "I don't want you to have other clients, a wife, a life...nothing that takes you away from me." He was very calm and said he could see how much it hurt to have lost him for a few days and he totally understood why I was now feeling so possessive. I like that word - possessive sounds so much better than insanely jealous. We talked about the list I have and the weekend, but we kept coming back to how dangerous and scary it is for me to feel so attached to him again.
Here is the question he asked that needs answering: "who do you need permission from to be OK with loving me and needing me?" My first response was, "you." He said I have that and obviously it isn't enough. So I'm supposed to try to work on an answer tonight.
I'll try breathing tonight. It seems like a good idea.
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