Posted by Dinah on March 16, 2007, at 13:42:17
In reply to I may not survive my therapy, posted by widget on March 16, 2007, at 12:48:26
> But, the worst part was when I said "I am more attatched to you than you are to me." He sadly and slowly shook his head yes. I am devestated. And, I wasn't expecting him to have a sexual relationship with me, just to be more than another patient to him.
I think you're making a leap there that you don't need to make. I *know* beyond a doubt that I am more than another patient to my therapist. I know that by virtue of our long relationship and the work we've put in it, I'm special to him.
I also know, and he'll agree, that I'm more attached to him than he is to me. He says that it's inevitable. That he is a major part of my support network, and that I am not a major part of his, nor should I be. When I'm upset, I look to him. When he's upset, he looks to others, as well he should.
I'm ok with that, I think. I sometimes want to measure the difference, because I'm ok with being, say, five times as much more attached than he is, but not a thousand times. I want there to be some attachment on his side.
But to be honest, if he *was* as attached to you as you were to him, he couldn't do therapy very well. He can care for you very much and find you special. But I don't think there is any way to compare a client's attachment to their therapist with the therapist's attachment to even their most special clients.
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