Posted by annierose on September 7, 2007, at 17:18:15
In reply to Re: Frustrated and unhappy with T, posted by Racer on September 7, 2007, at 12:11:53
You have gotten great responses and I agree with all of them. Sometimes t / clients are just not good fits. Othertimes, the t's approach just rubs you the wrong way ... it doesn't mean she is not professional, ethical, etc ... it's just not what you want out of this relationship right now.
Having said all that, I do want to throw out something out there, sometimes your resistance is a red flag. It signals that this is an area that needs exploring. If she is a blank slate type of person, all this angst you are experiencing is coming from some experience inside of you that needs attention.
You mentioned that she is bringing her stuff into the therapy room. How so? Does she talk about her life and friends and family? Or are you projecting anger onto her reaction of saying little?
My t is psychodynamic, a sort of blank slate approach, but she definitely talks, asks questions, gives direction, comfort, pulls things together, etc. etc. But these sort of relationships do take time to develop. I think there are studies that show the orientation of the therapist isn't as important as how much the client feels the therapist can help them.
I would like to hear how she brings her stuff into your sessions.
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