Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2007, at 10:48:25
In reply to Re: See T today - after the 'suck it up' comment » Dinah, posted by Honore on September 10, 2007, at 10:06:58
To be honest, I don't come across as confrontational with him as I sound on the board. In fact he told me he doesn't remember me showing anger to him for a very long time, except that one time when he took that job when he hadn't given me any warning, when he knew it would affect my decision to leave or stay in New Orleans. I think that one was very warranted.
I manage to be direct, and let him know what I feel, without actually sounding angry or confrontational with him. And I guess he makes it easy for me by being very easygoing.
The phone call I said I'd made would have sounded hysterical, not angry. Although I'd likely *feel* both.
On the other hand, he says I punish him by never letting him forget things he's said that he shouldn't. *I* say that the remarks make me self conscious or worried about his reactions so I preface future remarks that I fear might get a similar response with "I know it could be said..."
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