Posted by Sigismund on September 12, 2007, at 15:32:43
In reply to Nightmares and Parents **triggers**, posted by Wittgenstein on September 12, 2007, at 4:59:16
You might have thought that moving to a different country would do the trick?
>In May I had to get a letter from the psychiatrist in my home town for my university - first my partner and I arranged to visit while they were on holiday so we would miss them. I told my dad in secret of our plans but he let slip to my mum and then I had her screaming at me down the phone how I was avoiding her, didn't love her, hated her..., crying and sending manipulative e-mails.
Maybe in the above case you shouldn't have trusted your father?
Somehow it is important for you to have a break from your mother, but I don't see how you can if she is uninterested in how things are with you and/or you are unable to tell her in a way that she will listen to.When I went home I felt pain that was like heartburn. I could feel it chewing me up.
I assume your mother's approach is along the (affectionate?) lines of you're so hopeless you need her help.
Are you frightened of hurting your mother and father?
Perhaps you are *too* frightened of that?
From your mother's response to your suicide attempt, I'd say she refuses (incapable?) to enter your private life and is in a completely different space to you.
(I don't know why, but it occurred to me that she is lonely. She's certainly not getting real contact with you(?)
Unless you think she is, but that is quite scary. What I mean by that is.....are you dealing with insensitivity, or attack or what?)>You couldn't even do that properly!
That's what Stalin said about his son's attempt, if it makes you feel any better.Perhaps you could try giving yourself some of the same freedom and license your mother appears to give herself, at least for a bit?
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