Posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on September 14, 2007, at 9:10:19
In reply to Re: Nightmares and Parents **triggers**, posted by Wittgenstein on September 14, 2007, at 2:25:36
Hi Witty,
Cutting off contact is tough, very hard. I did eventually cut off contact from her family too. But it wasn't so hard, because I wasn't close to anyone there and plus they were kinda all really disfunctional. I miss my cousins though. But the reason I had to cut off contact is because my grandma and aunts would try to force me to be with my mother by inviting me over and surprise, my mom would be there. So I don't trust them.
My grandma would call up and leave angry messages, like how dare I leave my mom, after all she went through with my dying father. I am thinking, she was off messing around with another guy while leaveing my dying father at home, even on the holidays. She got married 6 mo. after my dad died. Hello? Then the recent message she said come out to the campground and have a hotdog with her. LOL yeah right! I wouldn't do that if I was starving and needed anything to eat to survive, I would rather die than see her and have a hotdog with her.
So if you decide to cut off contact, I will understand, and can support you. But maybe you aren't ready yet and that is okay too. I too understand the comfort of knowing I am not the only one. In fact they have found out that more abuses happen from mothers than fathers. But that is probably because there are more mothers raising kids nowdays. But still even with proof, it is just uncomprehendable to most people. It sucks when people don't believe you and when they look at you like you must be an terrible person to talk ill of your mother or to cut off contact.
Take care, witty
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