Posted by Daisym on May 28, 2008, at 23:22:52
In reply to impasse in therapy?, posted by Lucie Lu on May 28, 2008, at 19:43:12
Sometimes just naming the impasse and wondering about it can help break it. You might also look at what has worked before.
I don't know what kind of therapy you've been doing, but in attachment-based therapy, when a client feels secure and the intrusive traumas have started to receed, it is very typical for a client to get restless and want to "explore" some. Meaning, your therapist will remain your safe base but it may be that you are looking at adding other things in your life that help you enjoy your sense of happiness and security. I think it is the switch from being in the past and worrying about the future to being more in the here and now.
It probably feels hard to make this shift because so much of the connection has been through telling about past events and looking at their impact on your life. And talking about feeling "well" in therapy can be a scary thing. For me, at least, I sometimes think I'm not supposed to have sessions when things are going great - but my therapist often comments on how much he likes to hear the good stuff ("too") and I'm not wasting his time talking about by successes. He pointed out that I've never been emotionally held and regulated around any major emotions - negative or positive. So I'm almost as uncomfortable with feeling happy as I am feeling depressed.
Since you've been reading here awhile, I'm sure you know that we often tell each other - "talk about it, talk about it, talk about it." What ever needs to come up and out will.
Glad you decided to start posting.
Daisy
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