Posted by B2chica on May 29, 2008, at 10:45:06
In reply to impasse in therapy?, posted by Lucie Lu on May 28, 2008, at 19:43:12
First and foremost...WELCOME!!!
so glad to see you here. there are so many smart and experienced people here that can help with anything regarding T's. i think we about been through it all.******************
you know my first instinct response was the same. ready for different T. for different phase.
but you know what's best for you right now and maybe you need to start THINKING about it but not do anything about it. and that may not be the right answer for you at all. afterall he knows your history and maybe you need someone that you don't have to explain all that too to help you understand the struggles in your NOW life..
how often do you see him?i think moving to an 'adult' relationship with him can go two ways. 1)slow take your time and it can happen gradually not upsetting or harming you. 2)not at all, part of you needs to keep this dependent relationship to the injured part of you that has helped the littleone inside you, it will be VERY hard to in a sense loose that. BUT..and thats a BIG BUT that could be ME talking...me and my littleone never wanting to loose my T. (most likely)
**i think it is best to talk about with your T (like you want to) to see if you should even do that with him.
i would try to be blunt, for me that always works the best.
maybe try writing it down and taking it into session. or printing out your post. this is a classic around here. i can't TELL you how many times it was SO hard for me to say something in session but i was able to start saying it or say it on babble so people here encouraged me to print out my post...i did and took it to session. if i couldn't read it i handed it to T and let him read it.and dont' worry about your T's response. if he's a good T he will be happy to hear that you are ready to this phase. because moving to this phase does not necessarily mean termination, it means you are growing! and ready to move and talk about different issues.
Best Luck Lucie!
love the name btw.b2c.
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