Posted by sassyfrancesca on June 10, 2008, at 10:27:39
In reply to Re: b2c:My Verbal Abuse PaperExcited-Apprehensive » 10derHeart, posted by B2chica on June 9, 2008, at 15:36:32
Remember this: An abuser is an excruciatingly INSECURE, JEALOUS and a mess. They abuse (usually) because THEY were abused, and are taking all of their anger and rage at another person (the person they are supposed to love and care about)
They HATE themselves.
Unfortunately, those of us who have been abused carry around those old tapes/lies, which are dfficult to ignore.
They are manipulative charmers to the outside world (everything says "What a NICE guy)" They fool most everyone (even t's who are not trained in this subject; I experienced that...what a shock!)
You cannot stand up to, nor defend yourself with an abuser; they need their "supply"---a constant defending yourself, explaining, etc.....
Love, Sassy
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