Posted by ClearSkies on June 12, 2008, at 12:12:52
In reply to My Verbal Abuse Paper/Excited-Apprehensive, posted by sassyfrancesca on June 4, 2008, at 15:27:56
Late to this thread, but I too want to thank you for starting it and to wish you well and give you my support for what you're doing.
I was "only" in an abusive marriage for 18 years and it was very clear to me towards the end, when we were dealing with my father in law's decline, that my ex husband had obviously suffered a great deal by his own father's treatment. It by no means exonerated his behavior but made me so very sad that he instead had chosen to perpetuate the generational story of verbal abuse of spouses and children.
When it came time for me to read that same book, it was most difficult for me. It wasn't that I wanted to deny that any of it had happened, but it just created an enormous sadness and hurt that really hasn't healed properly yet.
I'm now in a much healthier relationship with a caring partner and am constantly surprised that there are men like him out there. Who don't have to wound with words in order to prop themselves up.
Thanks again
ClearSkies
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